Side Chick vs. Main Chick Who’s Winning the Love War?

Otega Akpotohor - September 23, 2024

Welcome to the most epic showdown of modern romance Side Chick vs. Main Chick! It’s the ultimate battle, filled with sass, secrets, sneaky text messages, and silent competitions. But what truly sets these two roles apart?

Side Chick Vs Main Chick

Let’s take a deep dive into this sizzling world and break down the key differences, from status to perks, and why each might (or might not) win the crown.

Let’s break it down and settle this once and for all: who truly reigns supreme in the hierarchy of romance? The side chick or the main chick? With an intense deep dive into what makes each role distinct, we’ll uncover the differences, the stereotypes, and maybe even the reasons behind these two “chick” statuses.

Difference Between the Side Chick and The Main Chick

Spotlight vs. Shadows

  • Main Chick: The main chick is the queen in the spotlight. She gets the Instagram posts, the tagged photos, and the public displays of affection (PDA). She’s the one brought home to meet the family and gets the obligatory Sunday brunches with the in-laws. Everyone knows her name, and she’s tagged in his bio.
  • Side Chick: She is the queen of the shadows. She thrives in the dark mode of his life, receiving text messages like, “You up?” at 2 a.m. The side chick’s PDA? Well, that’s more like “private displays of affection.” If she’s lucky, she might get a Snapchat story without a tag—just so the main chick doesn’t get suspicious.

Dates vs. DMs

  • Main Chick: Dinner at fancy restaurants, candle-lit conversations, surprise flowers at work, and weekend getaways. The main chick gets the royal treatment when it comes to dates—think sunsets and long walks on the beach. Her relationship status is clear: official.
  • Side Chick: Side chick dates are a little more…how should we put this? Let’s just say, Netflix and chill isn’t just an option; it’s the default. While the main chick is out on a romantic dinner, the side chick is probably getting, “What’s your address again?” in the DMs.

Holiday Treatment

  • Main Chick: Christmas? She’s unwrapping gifts by the tree. Valentine’s Day? She’s showing off her bouquet on Instagram stories. Birthdays? Don’t even get started! The main chick has it all when it comes to holidays.
  • Side Chick: Holidays for the side chick are like playing hide and seek. Valentine’s Day? She might get a text at 11:59 p.m. saying, “You’re special too, you know?” And Christmas? Maybe a re-gifted box of chocolates from last year’s stash. If she’s lucky, she gets her own day on February 15th.

The Social Media Game

  • Main Chick: Oh, she’s all over his social media. #WCW? It’s her. Birthday shoutouts? Yup, there she is. If his Instagram is a love story, she’s the leading lady. She has full access to liking, commenting, and tagging as much as she pleases.
  • Side Chick: Her social media game is more of a ninja operation. She’s there, but she’s lurking in the background, making sure not to leave any obvious likes or comments that might get her caught. DMs are her playground, and if she’s smart, she avoids hearting anything that could set off alarm bells for the main chick.

Future Plans vs. Present Fun

  • Main Chick: She’s in it for the long haul. Talks of marriage, kids, and settling down are all on the table. Future vacations are planned months in advance, and she has a mental Pinterest board filled with wedding dresses. In her eyes, she’s the one who will get the forever ring.
  • Side Chick: The side chick? She’s here for a good time, not a long time. Long-term plans? Pfft. She’s more about living in the moment, enjoying the spontaneity, and not getting too attached. In her defense, her role doesn’t include Pinterest boards or wedding bells, and that’s just fine with her (most of the time).

Drama Queen vs. Chill Queen

  • Main Chick: The main chick might seem like she has it all, but with great power comes great responsibility. And sometime great drama. Whether it’s stressing over where the relationship is going or keeping tabs on every woman in his DMs, the main chick’s life can feel like a soap opera.
  • Side Chick: Drama? Nah, the side chick signed up for the chill package. No messy relationship check-ins, no arguments about why he didn’t text back, and no overthinking every little detail. As long as she’s getting what she signed up for, life is good. (Until it isn’t.)

Perks vs. Perks

  • Main Chick: Let’s be real the main chick has the perks that society celebrates. She gets the public validation, the title, the official commitment. Sure, she might have to deal with the stresses of being the one, but she also gets security and stability (or so she thinks).
  • Side Chick: The side chick’s perks? Freedom. No strings attached, no obligations, and no pressure to keep up appearances. She might not get the ring, but she sure enjoys the benefits of having a front-row seat in a drama-free (mostly) relationship. Well…until someone’s caught slipping.

10 Clear Signs You Might Be the Side Chick (Even If You Didn’t Know)

If you’ve ever wondered where you truly stand, here’s a fun but honest list of signs that might reveal you’ve been playing sidekick instead of main character in your romantic saga:

  • Late-Night Calls Only: If your partner only contacts you late at night, it may suggest secrecy.
  • No Meeting Friends or Family: Not being introduced to their social circles indicates you are kept hidden.
  • No Public Dates: If all your dates are private or low-key, they may not want to be seen with you in public.
  • Last-Minute Plans: Constantly spontaneous meetups may mean you are an afterthought compared to their main partner.
  • No Social Media Presence: If you’re never featured on their social media, your relationship may be a secret.
  • Radio Silence on Holidays: Absence during holidays suggests they are with someone else.
  • Mysterious Schedule: Vague explanations about their whereabouts may indicate dishonesty.
  • Undefined Relationship: Avoidance of labeling your relationship means they might have a primary partner.
  • Never Visiting Their Place: Meeting exclusively elsewhere can point to another person living there.
  • Secretive Phone Behavior: If they act suspicious with their phone around you, they might be hiding something.

If you found yourself nodding at more than a few of these signs, you might be the side chick. But don’t worry, knowledge is power! Now that you know, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to stay in the shadows or step into the spotlight. You’re too fabulous to be anyone’s backup plan.

10 Clear Signs You Might Be the Main Chick

If these signs resonate with you, then rest easy you’re definitely the main chick:

  • Public Acknowledgment: Your partner showcases you on social media.
  • Major Holidays: You celebrate important occasions together, indicating a prioritization in the relationship.
  • Family and Friends: You’re known and accepted by their close circle.
  • Familiar Routine: You’re aware of their daily life and schedule.
  • Key Access: Having a key to their home signifies trust and commitment.
  • Future Plans: Inclusion in long-term plans, like moving in or marriage, suggests you hold a significant role.
  • Emotional Support: You’re the first person they reach out to during important life events.
  • Open Phone Policies: Transparency with their phone shows no secrets between you.
  • Celebrating Important Dates: You acknowledge and celebrate anniversaries and birthdays without secrecy.
  • Integrated Lives: You are actively involved in each other’s lives and experiences.

You’re the one with the status, the future plans, and the public acknowledgment. But remember, being the main chick doesn’t always mean everything is smooth sailing. Stay aware of your relationship dynamics and ensure that you’re not unknowingly part of a larger drama.

So, Who’s Winning?

Here’s the real tea: Neither the main chick nor the side chick is winning this game. Why? Because if there’s a side chick in the picture, the whole relationship is off track. Both roles are filled with their own quirks and problems, and at the end of the day, if a guy’s juggling both, nobody’s really coming out on top.

While the main chick might seem to have the upper hand with security and validation, the side chick’s “chill and thrill” approach can’t be downplayed. But ultimately, love isn’t a competition. Whether you’re the main, the side, or neither, the lesson is clear: get yourself a one-chick kinda guy. If he’s got a roster, run. Trust me, it’s not worth the headache!

Side chicks, stay in your lane (if that’s your thing), and main chicks, don’t sweat it just make sure your crown stays steady. And guys? Do better.

 

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